Marathon Appointments
If scheduling the appointments was bad, I should have known what was to come.
Thursday March 25- Lets just say I left my house yesterday at 7:30p and didn’t get home until almost 5:00p. Started with check in with the PCP, 2nd dose of the Varicella vaccine, blood work, and the Maternal Fetal Medicine consult. Definitely informational but it was information overload! I had to adjust to the news that due to serious medical issues, age, and weight- I am considered a “at-risk” pregnancy. Its a hard pillow to swallow but I am committed to persevere and loving the dynamic team I am building to help my dreams come to fruition.
Friday March 26- Day 3 of cycle appointments at Shady Grove. Kind of routine so I thought. But no one prepared me for the vaginal ultrasound!!!! And I clearly had breakfast on the way to the appointment when I was supposed to be fasting. Results turned out ok. They are worried about follicle production as that number is not where they want it. Another period of waiting for all updates to be received before seeing my doctor in late April.
Through all this, I only want my future baby to know how much it is wanted!
It’s Here
The long anticipated Day 1 of my cycle is here! The advice from a good friend, to stop thinking about it finally worked. But lets pause to say, that as excited as I am about taking the next steps, I could have gone without the cramping. That is something that definitely makes me miss the IUD.
Let me press play with the fact that my head is also spinning after talking to my clinical team at Shady Grove. It all started to sound like a foreign language when they started talking about Day 3, Day 7-12 appointments, HSG, genetic testing, ultrasounds, and bloodwork. So over the next 2 weeks I will spend a lot of time going from appointment to appointment!
How to keep up with it all? I am using my phone calendar and work planner! And because I need all things in one place, I created a Fertility binder (yes organized with dividers, labels, and of course sticky note reminders). This part of the journey is definitely preparing me for motherhood: THE JUGGLING ACT!
Hurry Up Already
As females we spend our entire lives hating “that time of the month.” Well now I am spending my days wishing for my period to come, so I can move into the next phase of this process! The wait time after having an IUD removed, can be gruesome.
Everyone tells me the moment I relax and don’t think about it is when it will surprise me. So what have I done to pass the time? Implement some self care by painting pictures, using inspirational coloring books, helping others around me, and getting plenty of rest…
Who is a Single Mother By Choice (SMC)
A SMC is someone who feels they have a lot to give a child and has the emotional and financial resources to support a family. She is someone who is starting out as or will be, the child’s sole parent. Typically someone in the 30’s or 40’s who wants to have a child before its “too late.” Many go to doctors for donor insemination or adopt, and others became pregnant and make the decision to raise them.
In this case, I have begun my journey with Shady Grove Fertility Clinic. I spent months debating if this was right for me. Overcoming the thoughts of what would others think and what would I say to my child. I attended seminars, read blogs, joined a Facebook group, and spoke to women who had already made this decision. But ultimately it was one of my students questioning why I wasn’t a mom already that really convinced me to move forward!
Want to learn more: try https://www.singlemothersbychoice.org/, SMC Facebook groups, Single Mothers By Choice book by Jane Mattes https://amzn.to/3rYC9m9, https://www.liveabout.com/becoming-a-single-mother-by-choice-2998103.
We’re in this together!
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